Why Adopt a Girl?

We have been asked on a number of occasions about why we wanted to adopt a little girl (NOTE: we are open to adopting 1 girl and 1 boy). Africa has a saying that we resonate with:

If you educate a man, you simply educate an individual,
but if you educate a woman, you educate a nation.

In Rich Stearns', President of World Vision (world's largest NGO), opinion, "the single most significant thing that can be done to cure extreme poverty is this: protect, educate, and nurture girls and woman and provide them with equal rights and opportunities - educationally, economically, and socially."

In our world today, being female isn't what God intended gender partnership to look like.

Sadly, in our world today, being female often means being sentenced to a life of poverty, abuse, exploitation, and deprivation.
Compared to her male counterpart, a girl growing up in the developing world is more lifely to die before her fifth birthday and less likely to go to school, since girls are often forced to work rather than attend school...She is less apt to receive adequate food, health care, and economic opportunities... [R. Stearns]

Here are some other heartbreaking realities:

  • 500,000 women die every year from complications in childbirth [= 1 women/minute].
  • Female babies are killed in some countries just because they aren't boys.
  • Women own less than 1% of the world's property, but work 2/3 of all the world's labor hours. They earn just 10% of the world's wages.
  • Girls in developing countries are often forced to quit school when they get their periods.
  • 2/3 of the world's illiterate population are women.

In the words of Annie, "It's a knock life". So, if Brian & I can be a part of protecting 1 or 2 girls' future, we choose girls. And we believe and trust that our daughter(s) will be a part of the global change for women's rights!

Comment

April L. Diaz

April has been a visionary activist her entire life. She has made it her mission to lead high performing teams and develop leaders in the margins of society while caring for our bodies, mind, and spirit. Secretly, she’s a mix of a total girly girl and a tomboy, and is still crazy about her high school sweetheart, Brian. Together, they co-parent 3 fabulous kiddos and live in Orange County, CA.

Is 2 Better Than 1? Decision

In mid-June we asked you to specifically pray for our decision to adopt 2 kiddos or 1. We have decided, but before I share the verdict I wanna share our process. In June I asked you to pray that we would:

  • come to the same decision separately
  • process the decision along the way well together and separately
  • have peace
  • make a decision with the best interest of the child in mind
  • not make the decision out of fear but out of love

Looking back on the past 2 months, God's answered those prayers greatly. He's used your prayers on our behalf. Thank you for not offering your own opinions but spiritually carrying us through the process.

Over the course of the past couple months I've fearfully wavered between 2 and 1. Brian never really did waver. He was always sure it would be 2. God spoke to me a couple times over the past two months, but one significant part of the process for me was meeting up with my co-Ethiopian adoptive friends, the Howver's, in Washington D.C. My intent was to ask them every question I could think of about what it's been like these past 2 years with their 2 Ethiopian daughters. They adopted them at the same time when the girls were 10 months and 2 1/2 years old (similar to what we'd get with 2). I was looking for something to help me make up my mind. Within 5 minutes of hanging with the Howver family, I was sure. Peace. Confidence. Courage. Boldness. Clarity. In my spirit I knew...

It was 2 kiddos. I told Brian. He wanted more time before we decided. Later he told me it was because he wanted to know if I was for real or just on an emotional high from spending a few hours with the Howver's 2 beautiful girls. It wasn't a high. It was for real.

A couple weeks later, Brian said "yes". It was a moment in the Diaz casa. Tears. Joy. Pure happiness. We are under no illusion that this could be very, very hard. But we know that we must adopt 2 little ones. We can. We have been given everything we need. We need to place greater trust and dependency on Jesus. We need to walk on water a bit. We need those little ones probably more than they need us. But we know that we can care for 2 orphans and for that reason we must. So, overnight our family will double. We'll need your help...that's for sure!

1 Comment

April L. Diaz

April has been a visionary activist her entire life. She has made it her mission to lead high performing teams and develop leaders in the margins of society while caring for our bodies, mind, and spirit. Secretly, she’s a mix of a total girly girl and a tomboy, and is still crazy about her high school sweetheart, Brian. Together, they co-parent 3 fabulous kiddos and live in Orange County, CA.

Abolishing Poverty - yes we can!

A few days ago I read on my friend's, Andrew Marin, Facebook the following quote:

"You cannot abolish poverty unless you also abolish affluence."

Ouch. I hated that quote as soon as a finished reading it, yet something inside me resonated with a deeper "yes". I hate that quote - truth? - because I am a person of affluence. I can often fool myself into thinking I am not because I'm a pastor living in Orange County, CA, but the truth is I am very affluent compared to the world's standards. If you're reading this blog, you are affluent too. Don't believe me? Check out: http://www.globalrichlist.com/ for the proof.

I know I'm affluent because I'm typing this on a laptop, watching TV, have a few dollars in a savings account, own 2 cars, have a mortgage, am not worrying what's for dinner, and will sleep tonight in a king-size bed. And the honest truth is: I like my life. Thinking about abolishing my poverty is beyond challenging because it means that a lot of how I live would have to change! Of course, we 2 kids in Africa with World Vision. We live on less than we earn. We tithe more than 10%. For the love, we're adopting a baby. But that doesn't make me superior...it's only the beginning of loosening the hold on affluence in order to bring more equality to this world.

We can't abolish poverty and maintain our own standards of living.
It just won't work like this, but I wish it did.


I was talking to my 18 year old brother today, and he was sharing about his recent mission's trip to Mexico. His greatest take-away and frustration is how complacent we are. The truth is that abundance breeds complacency. It just does. I wish that abundance produced a passionate movement toward giving more away, helping the poor, saying "no" to the things we really do not need, but it doesn't. It lulls us into believing we need more, risk less, and maybe care a little bit about the need around.

Agh...I'm not calling you out. I'm calling me out. And I'm praying that this Baby Ethiopia journey propels us into less and less complacency. Any thoughts on what you've learned about this? How are you combatting complacency and abolishing poverty?

1 Comment

April L. Diaz

April has been a visionary activist her entire life. She has made it her mission to lead high performing teams and develop leaders in the margins of society while caring for our bodies, mind, and spirit. Secretly, she’s a mix of a total girly girl and a tomboy, and is still crazy about her high school sweetheart, Brian. Together, they co-parent 3 fabulous kiddos and live in Orange County, CA.