Active Waiting

"What have I been doing these last 9+ months on the wait list", you might be asking? Actively waiting! In preparation for becoming parents, I've done a lot of research, homework, and learning. Here's a sneak peak.

  • Read Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections. It's a 500+ page "textbook" on all things adoption. It was amazing. A great resource guide that I'm sure we'll come back to many times once the kids come home. Required reading by our agency.
  • Completed watching a 5-hour DVD on Ethiopian adoptions. It was provide by our agency and required learning.
  • I'm obsessed with Ethiopian adoption blogs. I follow over a dozen blogs of families from our agency and others. It's so comforting, encouraging, inspiring, and educational to journey with other adoptive families.
  • I'm more obsessed with "Gotchya Day" videos. These are the videos when parents meet their children for the first time. They are guaranteed cry for me, but are so nourishing and healing. They paint a picture for me of our "one day".
  • Read The Connected Child. Such a fantastic book on building trust, attachments, and bonding with your adopted child. I posted some learnings on my blog HERE.
  • We've been preparing the kids' bathroom and bedroom for them to move in. We haven't decorated their room yet because we don't know if we'll get 2 girls or 1 of each gender. But the room previously known as Matt and SB's room turned guest room turned "catch all" room is currently being cleaned out to make way for the kids' to inhabit. The bathroom currently has paint samples on the wall. We're deliberating between spring green and orange slice.
  • Currently, I'm about halfway through reading Toddler Adoption. It's the leading book on what to expect when adopting a toddler. I told Brian that I'm so grateful that we're adopting a toddler because of what I'm learning about their needs, but I literally want to SOB my way through this book as I consider the loss and grief that little ones experience before their even able to go to school. It's so sad how much they've lost in just a few years of life.






STILL TO DO...

  • We also still need to complete our 10-hour online required Hague training. Not sure what to expect here, but I'm sure it's great.
  • We also need to complete our "Support System Plan", another required resource from our agency. It's a 7-page document with dozens of questions about potential questions, issues, situations, and needs we will have once our kids come home. We haven't completed much of it yet, but we've had so many parenting conversations, that I'm sure we'll officially get through this document soon.
  • We've also signed up for a webinar by Adoption Learning Partners called "Conspicuous Families". It's for families who are adopting children from other races or countries. It prepares us to handle the odd looks, questions, and insensitive comments about our kids not looking like our kids. It also will be a guide for encouraging diversity and cultural awareness. I'm really excited for this 90-minute course!
  • I still want to read Attaching in Adoption. It was another recommended resource for building attachments with your kiddos.

As you can see, we haven't been sitting on our hands! We've been actively waiting: thinking, praying, planning, and learning so we can be as ready as possible to become their parents.

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April L. Diaz

April has been a visionary activist her entire life. She has made it her mission to lead high performing teams and develop leaders in the margins of society while caring for our bodies, mind, and spirit. Secretly, she’s a mix of a total girly girl and a tomboy, and is still crazy about her high school sweetheart, Brian. Together, they co-parent 3 fabulous kiddos and live in Orange County, CA.

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April L. Diaz

April has been a visionary activist her entire life. She has made it her mission to lead high performing teams and develop leaders in the margins of society while caring for our bodies, mind, and spirit. Secretly, she’s a mix of a total girly girl and a tomboy, and is still crazy about her high school sweetheart, Brian. Together, they co-parent 3 fabulous kiddos and live in Orange County, CA.

Before I Blow Out The Candles...

August is arguably my favorite month of the year. It's culmination of summer. It's our anniversary (9 years on the 5th!!). And it's my birthday (31 years young on the 9th). I love this month. All of it. After 9+ months on the wait list, maybe it'll be the month that holds our referral, too!

Which leads me to a prayer request...if I'm doing my math correctly and time lines proceed as predicted (nearly a laughable sentence to write), these next couple weeks are the 11th hour for us. If we'd get our referral in the next 2 weeks, we'd probably have our first Ethiopian court date at the end of October. Then, we'd travel again for our Embassy date 6-8 weeks later to bring them home. Putting all those time frames together, we'd barely make it to bring them home by the end of 2010. If you've been following our journey for more than a few posts, you know this would be a huge deal - emotionally and spiritually - for us. The other factor, is financial. The U.S. government gives a great adoption tax credit for the year you complete your adoption. But if we don't complete our adoption in 2010, we'll have to wait an additional year for a substantial and very helpful tax refund for our expenses. This would be huge and hard to wait for with the expenses involved in adoption and (oh yeah!) parenting!

I've been spending a lot of time meditating these days in Psalm 40. I'm continuing to practice waiting patiently (verse 1), but verse 13 hit me today as a call for help to my God...

Please, Lord, rescue me!
Come quickly, Lord, and help me.

A few other psalms have resonated deeply:

"You are my refuge and my shield; I have put my hope in your word." Psalm 119:114
"Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him." Psalm 62:5

Yet at the end of August, my hope is in God. I wait for him, not for a referral. Still, God invites us to make our requests known to him because he cares. As Psalm 40 says, he turns his ear to hear our cry.

Prayer Request ::
We could bring home our babies

by the end of 2010.
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April L. Diaz

April has been a visionary activist her entire life. She has made it her mission to lead high performing teams and develop leaders in the margins of society while caring for our bodies, mind, and spirit. Secretly, she’s a mix of a total girly girl and a tomboy, and is still crazy about her high school sweetheart, Brian. Together, they co-parent 3 fabulous kiddos and live in Orange County, CA.